You have heard the expression, "Don't wait for someone to bring you flowers, plant your own garden!" It's one of my favorites. These are fresh picks from my yard, planted in the garden of grief. Not long after my husband passed, a lovely lady I barely knew said she'd been trying to think of how she could bless me. Well, as it turns out, she was quite the plant mom with a green thumb. She started visiting me with pots, plants, soil, plant food and gardening tools, It wa

So you want you to get better but don't know where to start? A life coach or a therapist? A life coach and a therapist are both in the business of transforming lives. The differences are in the level of education, training and approach based on the needs of their clients. A life coach focuses on the future and a therapist focuses on the past. A life coach can help improve clients relationships, careers, day to day management and life skills. A coach can also help clients cl

Happy Mother's Day to all the moms, stepmoms, adopted moms, pet moms, and women who mother others. This day is a beautiful celebration of motherhood. It is also a difficult day for many. Some are mourning the loss of their moms while others may have a strained or no relationship at all. Others are separated for a number of reasons; loss of a child, distance, incarceration, addiction, abuse or emotionally just not safe to be around . Let's hold space for those that are gri

I have been watching my son play baseball for years. It is definitely a mental game. If you know baseball…baseball is life. Many analogies and symbolic meanings can be inferred through the game about life such as wins, losses, curveballs, striking out and making adjustments. But one that stands out the most was a parallel shared with me by my son about the people in our lives who are the critical naysayers. He said, “Those people are like the other dugout. They are always scr

YOU TAKE YOUR WEDDING RING OFF!!! This one comes from my writing vault from the early days of when I first moved into the "widowhood." Shortly after I was newly widowed... lost in a new place of pain, confusion and loss I asked my Mom, "wait, Mom am I still married?" She said, "no honey you are not." I was shocked. Was this just a dream? I couldn't believe it. I couldn't even breathe. Wow, suddenly I found myself a newly-unmarried-single mom. Many of you who have divorce