"What do I do now?" is a frequently asked question of my clients and really anyone who has gone through a tragedy or major life event. I know it was for me. As I was sitting in that hospital room with my late husband's lifeless body, the social worker came in politely said my children and I needed to vacate because they needed the room in the ER. I stood up and someone handed me a plastic bag with my husband's belongings. I was in complete shock, absolutely stunned, shaking, chilled to the bone and I said, "What do I do now? I spent the next several months trying to answer this question through tear stained glasses, blurred vision and a broken heart. Little by little I sought out help from doctors, therapists, support groups, financial advisors, friends and my pastor. I had to tend the practical things of life as well as my body, mind and soul. During this time I stumbled across a quote that said, "You can either GET BITTER or GET BETTER!" There is always a choice. We can hang up our hat and think it is all over. We can sit around anxious, depresed while belaboring the question, "why did this happen to me? . Or we can ask, "What can I learn from this? How can I get better? How can I use this experience to be a benefit to others? I found out that there are a lot of answers to the question, "What do I do now?" There is a time for seeking help, healing and personal growth. Then, comes a time to make a resolve to live again and ask ourselves, "what do I WANT TO DO?" Sometimes our losses make space we never intended to have but make room for something new. Finding faith. Exploring passions and interests. Travel adventures. A new career. Taking classes. Learning a new hobby. Getting fit. Climbing mountains. Joining a club with like minded people. Making new connections, friendships or finding love again. One can learn to live with loss and experience new hope. It requires an open mind and willingness to dig deep and work on ourselves. "What do I do now?" is a great question. My life changed instanteously and I began the process of reinventing myself at 49. If I can do it, so can you! If this is you, I can help.
*My name is Jennifer. I am a certified life coach. Yes, I took the classes but most of what I know comes from the vault of my own experiences. I am a widow, single mom of two amazing young adults that pushed through losing their father during their tumultuous teens. From surviving to thriving; one is in graduate school and the other is in college. As a life coach I help many with new beginnings after a loss whether it is the death loved one, divorce, job, relationship or learning new life skills along the recovery/sobriety journey.