What do you do when it feels like all hell is breaking loose? The car breaks down, your washer dies, your cat gets sick, your kid's computer breaks right before school starts, there's "more month than money", your relationships are not going well, issues at your job...the list can go on and on. We have all been there, right? Life keeps happening at all the same time. Chaos, confusion, pandemonium. It can get discouraging. You might feel absolutely utterly powerless, anxious and...finally depressed. Let's normalize it. Life's living can be difficult at times. We do not have to paint on a plastic smile and drink toxic positivity. It is okay to be honest and admit that your life feels unbalanced and unmanageable. Here is the hope. Out of chaos always comes growth. Here are some ideas to help you get unstuck and back on track.
Stop. Take a deep breath. Ground yourself.
Pray. Call on God. The line is open 24/7.
Ask for help. Call a trusted friend. When there is so much going on, you may need to get some perspective. Our brains get flooded with anxiety to a point where we cannot think straight.
Move the mountain. Make a list. Tackle your biggest mountain first. First things first. Of course, your health and mental health are top priorities. Decide what you need to fix first. If it is your car, you need transportation of course. (You know your mountains.)
Encourage yourself. Talk to yourself with optimism. An example might be telling yourself "This too shall pass" or "One day at a time."
Back to basics. Sometimes we are trying to do too much. This breakdown might be the universe telling you to slow down, re-evaluate, readjust and just keep it simple.
Re-Up. Renew your faith. Commit to strengthening your spiritual muscles. Stop to practice by asking yourself, "who is in control here?" If we keep trying to force solutions, it can feel like we spinning OUT of control. The truth is we cannot control much in life, except our response. Let go. Release your cares and concerns. (If your problems are self-inflicted, that's okay too, there is hope and new beginnings available. Ask me how.)
Take a time out! Unplug from social media. Clear your schedule. Do some art. Walk in nature. Listen to some music. Practice mindfulness. Restore your peace and serenity.
Take the message out of the mess! Ask yourself what can I learn from this? What can I do differently? How can I be proactive in my life?
*My name is Jennifer. I am a certified life coach. Yes, I took the classes. I have some tools in my toolbox to share. But most of what I have learned comes from my own trials. I am a widow, single mother, hustling in LA, living the adventures of life with gratitude, hope and with expectation that the best is yet to come!